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Why do men cheat on women? Show more Show less

Heterosexual infidelity is increasingly common. Statistics vary, but most estimate that 20% of married men have secret extramarital sexual relationships at one point or another. Why? This illicit betrayal can ruin lives and tear families apart. So, what drives men to cheat on women?

The Other Woman is to blame Show more Show less

This approach believes the fault lies with the woman who lured the man into temptation.
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Women lure men away from their partners

Infidelity takes place when a woman chooses to lure a faithful man away from their unsuspecting partners.
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gender infidelity relationships women

Context

When a heterosexual man cheats on his partner, he is led by the other woman.

The Argument

A groundbreaking 2017 study by researchers at the University of Cardiff revealed that women who have been cheated on, are much more likely to blame the "other woman" than their spouse. This group believe that making a conscious decision to have a relationship with an attached man, is morally wrong. A woman who makes this choice is complicit in the betrayal. And responsible for encouraging a man to cheat.

Counter arguments

This perspective is wedded to outdated beliefs that claim the man has no responsibility for his actions, and objectifies women. When men make the decision to cheat, only they can be held accountable. As Rebecca Reid writes in The Telegraph, "When a man cheats on his wife, it is not because he’s been forced to. He hasn’t been conned into it, or tricked. He has decided that sex with another person is more important, more interesting, more arousing and therefore worth compromising whatever it is that he has committed to at home."[1]

Framing

Premises

[P1] Male cheating is dependent on having a willing female partner [P2] A willing female partner is the necessary condition for cheating

Rejecting the premises

[Rejecting P2] The existence of a female cannot be responsible for the actions of a man

Proponents

Further Reading

References

  1. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/husband-stealer-myth-do-always-blame-women-men-cheat/

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