Heterosexual infidelity is increasingly common. Statistics vary, but most estimate that 20% of married men have secret extramarital sexual relationships at one point or another. Why? This illicit betrayal can ruin lives and tear families apart. So, what drives men to cheat on women?
This approach believes that cheating is not a gender issue.
Women cheat as much as men
Research shows that rates of female infidelity are increasing, while men are cheating less.
Monogamy is unnatural
Humans are meant to have multiple partners at any one time. No wonder people end up cheating.
Infidelity is situational
There is no single cause for infidelity. Just as every relationship is unique, so are the causes for betrayal.
The masculine ideal makes male infidelity permissible.
Society conditions men to cheat
Strength. Virility. Bedpost notches. Men are socialised into aspirations of a "male ideal". This can lead to cheating, as a type of performative masculinity.
Infidelity changes the way men think about themselves and view the the object of their affair.
Men fall in love with a "fantasy"
Infidelity begins with lust. This results from a man projecting his own fantasies onto the object of his desire.
Men cheat to feel validated
Sexual attraction intensifies when a person feels valued. Men cheat because they feel increasingly validated by the attention of other person.
Men cheat because they are unsatisfied with their current partner.
Men are not satisfied with their partners
There is a significant link between cheating and relationship dissatisfaction.
Men are unwilling to sacrifice
Relationship experts claim relationship satisfaction depends on how much a person is willing to sacrifice. And men don't like sacrificing their needs.
This approach believes the fault lies with the woman who lured the man into temptation.
The "other woman" is liberating herself
Women choose to fall into the "other woman" role as an expression of their sexual liberation and freedom to submit to their desires above all else.
Women lure men away from their partners
Infidelity takes place when a woman chooses to lure a faithful man away from their unsuspecting partners.
This approach see male infidelity as hardwired into their DNA.
Men prefer younger women
The scientific evidence is in. At any age, men are most attracted to young women.
Men have biologically evolved to cheat
The genetic distinction between how many children men and women can have, is the key genetic difference at the heart of this debate.
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