**sexuality is complicated and every experience is different.** - some people are so aware of this that they identify as sexually fluid. however, some people are sure of their specific label and to imply it could change is highly problematic and dismisses their struggle for acceptance in a heteronormative world. it almost implies there is a chance they could be attracted to a sex they know they could never be happy with. - sometimes labels change and that's okay. it can take time to find one and a lot of exploration. people can try on labels as their feelings change until they find one that fits them if they so desire. - [everyone has an underlying orientation — asexual, pansexual, or heterosexual, for example. Yet there's room for it to expand a little, based on your experiences and current current situation.](https://www.healthline.com/health/sexually) people may find themselves outgrowing a label and realising it no longer fits when in a new situation and that is valid. no one should feel made to limit themselves for someone else's convenience. - [people are born with a sexual orientation and also with a degree of sexual flexibility, and they appear to work together.](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.newscientist.com/article/mg22730310-100-sexuality-is-fluid-its-time-to-get-past-born-this-way/amp/) people often consider different labels during their journey to self-discovery. it is okay to question and explore and experiment.

**Is sexuality genetic and can it change over time?** • Sexual orientation is a part of identity that categorises who we are sexually attracted to in terms of gender. People experience sexual attraction in many different ways: some are only attracted to people of the opposite gender, others only to those of the same gender, some to many genders, others regardless of gender, and some not at all. • In 1948, scientists theorised that sexuality exists on a spectrum and presented this idea as a scale called [The Kinsey Scale](https://kinseyinstitute.org/research/publications/kinsey-scale.php). Inspired by this initial scale, many have now created new scales to better represent the [complexity](https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1141180/sexuality-is-spectrum/) of sexuality. • We cannot choose our sexuality. Many believe that it is something we are inherently born with, and therefore is pre-destined and fixed. • Historically, many cultures have believed that it is possible to change your sexuality, often in the context of homosexuality. Due to homophobia and discrimination, many gay people have been forced or chosen to undertake [conversion therapy](https://www.hrc.org/resources/the-lies-and-dangers-of-reparative-therapy) in order to become heterosexual – however in many places this is now thought to be unethical and impossible. • Some believe that sexuality is [genetic](https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/standard-deviations/201605/sexuality-is-much-more-fluid-you-think). Many people believe that our genes are pre-coded and fixed, and therefore infer that sexuality is fixed. However, others argue for the existence of epigenetic gene switches (where genes get switched on and off) and conceive that this may cause fluidity in sexuality. • Many people argue that sexuality is not fixed, but [fluctuating and changeable](https://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2015/jul/24/gay-genes-science-is-on-the-right-track-were-born-this-way-lets-deal-with-it). Some people experience different sexual preferences at different times and ages, and may identify as sexually fluid.

Lots of gays choose to convert to being straight through therapy so it is clearly not fixed.

Biological sexuality is a constant, aesthetic and mental sexuality can be changed or altered. If one wants to transition it doesn't change their biology but rather how they are perceived to themselves and to others, this can make one feel better.