While I agree that not all men are responsible on attacks for women, in fact it probably is a small minority of men committing these heinous acts, immediately taking to twitter to spread the hashtag NotAllMen after an attack is not helping the situation. Women have no way of telling which men are responsible for these acts. It could be anyone they pass on the street and so of course we speak in terms of ‘men’ what else are we to say? As soon as the news broke that the body of Sarah Everald had been found NotAllMen started trending on twitter. This is merely an example of men making this situation about themselves instead of attempting to educate themselves on how they can help the situation. I have never heard anyone claim it is ‘all men’ committing these acts, but it is generally, men. For instance, [in the US between 60% and 99% of sexual assault and rape is committed by men onto women](https://wearawhitefeather.wordpress.com/survivors/rape-culture-statistics/). Until these statistics begin to change and women feel safe walking around at night without fearing for their lives of course we will fear men, that does not mean to say all men are committing these crimes, it means most of these crimes are committed by men. That is why we fear them. The attempt is not to demonise men by focusing less on the not all men narrative, we want more focus on the narrative that is almost all women who have to experience the impact of male sexual harassment in their lifetime. [As 97% of women have been victims of sexual harassment](https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/uknews/14305600/all-young-women-sexually-harassed-modify-behaviour-avoid-attacked/). We are not seeking to demonise all men, we want to bring about change to women not being able to live their lives freely in fear of the men who do commit these acts. This should be what is focused on instead of men trying to victimise themselves as soon as women speak up.

It *is* all men. ALL men don't understand the daily lived experience of women, trans women and non-binary people who - with every possible justification and terrifying amounts of evidence - fear for their physical safety as they go about their lives.

The #NotAllMen is extremely problematic. Men are using it as a way to absolve themselves from any accusations of misogyny before they allow a woman to share their experiences. This is not contributing anything to the discussion and is completely missing the point. When women and girls are sharing their experiences of this social / cultural problem, what they really need from men is just for them to simply listen. #NotAllMen makes us feeling like we are fighting a losing battle. It is a part of the problem. Us women know that it is not every man, but it could be ANY man. We have to constantly be on alert and that is not okay. #NotAllMen is quite frankly offensive. It mirrors the same sentiment of the #AllLivesMatter argument against Black Lives Matter. Instead of challenging women, just let them be heard and take some time to be educated on how we can improve gender equality and women's safety in society.

It bothers me that I am fairly neutral on this but I think that is my age group. Time were very different when I was a young woman and what is now rightly seen as inappropriate behaviour was considered acceptable back then. Clearly attitudes have changed and I can see just how much. I do not use twitter so the hash tag was something I was not aware of. If I was a man ( sound like Beyonce!) I think I'd be tempted to point out that it's not all men, however all men do have a responsibility to call out inappropriate behaviour amongst their peers, fathers can show their sons the right way to behave although different cultures, sometimes have different views about how women are protectively treated and kept safe that can conflicts with a womans equality. Sadly there will always be perverts, who as I told my children growing up, look just like anyone else.

Using the #NotAllMen hashtag is controversial because one more time, people are devaluing women experiences. Of course, we are not pointing to ALL men, but maybe, you´re not the one who is repressing, but your friend, your neighbours or your colleague and that automatically makes you a witness of the problem. If you experience a situation where women are being pressed, and you keep quiet, you aren´t neutral but a part of the problem. I think that hashtags like this, as Catrin has said, slow down our purposes to be safe, equal and listened to.

This is so true, and I was disappointed but not really that surprised to see #NotAllMen trending on Twitter following the tragic events of this week. It does not help one bit, and like #AllLivesMatter, it diverts from actual problems (e.g. women and Black people being attacked) and turns it into a big "but what about me?" statement. Responses from authorities (though very well-intentioned, and nowhere near as irritating and tone-deaf as #NotAllMen) also diverted the situation, advising women to take caution (which has been drilled into us since childhood anyway). This, of course, was well-meaning and true, but it still implied that attacks such as that on Sarah Everard and Blessing Olusegun are not a men's problem, but rather, something women should take precaution for. The graphic with 'protect your daughters' crossed out in red and 'educate your sons' written underneath circulated around social media in response to this. Obviously it's true that only a small portion of men are predators (and obviously any gender can attack any gender), but it's just concerning to think that a woman is killed and the first thing that comes to too many people's minds is "it wasn't me'" rather than, "that's so awful, how can we, as a society, do better?" Also, in this thread, most comments, including mine, have stated something along the lines of 'obviously we know it's not all men' . This arguably suggests that women feel the need to say this to avoid getting interrupted when trying to share our thoughts and experiences, even though 'not all men' is a given.