**some people's experiences may be like this, but most of the time it is much more complex.** - [detransitioners](https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/dispelling-myths-around-detransition) exist, but this doesn't mean we should assume all trans people will regret their decision. some people may find themselves realising that they are not actually trans, though the reality is most people know very well that they are. everyone's experience is valid, so while some trans experiences are short lived not everyone's is. - many detransitioners who found it to be short lived did so due to the disapproval or an inability to continue. they do not usually wish to be used as a reason to judge and frown upon trans people since many of them are still in fact trans. the problem is not with trans people but in fact with those who make them feel so unwelcome they cannot see a life where they can be themselves. - it doesn't matter if someone wants to try a new label and it ends up not working. no one should be judged if they realise they were wrong on the complicated path to knowing who they are. the issue comes when we generalise these experience and weaponise them against a marginalised community to invalidate multitudes of rich experiences that disprove the notion it is all about social influence and a short lived "phase." - this is a wild sweeping statement and generalisation - this may be the case for some people but for the most part it is forever. it would be a counterproductive choice to be trans due to "social influence," when in fact [your social life may suffer](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5044929/) as an unfortunate cost of embracing yourself fully. who would choose to be at risk if it was for trivial reasons? - perhaps it is short lived because the death rate is so high for trans people, and not because of the arrogant view that we know trans people better than they do. who are we to dictate how someone identifies and if it is valid or will last?