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Turi5y ago
These statements (#MaC) form part of the Morality as Cooperation Quiz
What is morality? Where does it come from, and how does it work? And how and why do moral values vary, between individuals, and across cultures?
The theory of ‘morality as cooperation’ (MAC) argues that morality is best understood as a collection of biological and cultural solutions to the problems of cooperation recurrent in human social life. MAC draws on evolutionary game theory to argue that, because there are many types of cooperation, there will be many types of morality.
These include: family values, group loyalty, reciprocity, heroism, deference, fairness and property rights. Previous research suggests that these seven types of morality are evolutionarily-ancient, psychologically-distinct, and cross-culturally universal.
Take the Quiz to work out what your particular mix looks like.
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Julianne4y ago
**As a general principle, making amends for things you have done wrong is a kind thing to do that also demonstrates a certain strength of character and willingness to learn.**
- Making amends for wrongdoings helps show you care. It's just as much about how the other people involved feel as it is about how you feel (whether your conscience or sense of guilt is soothed by such actions.) In my opinion, making amends for things you have done wrong will help the other party feel better, and thereby you will feel so by extension. You will also demonstrate a willingness to learn from experiences and interactions, which is an important trait of what our species has learned to do, [even if, interestingly, we aren't evolved to learn _too_ well from our mistakes](https://www.wired.co.uk/article/why-we-dont-learn-from-our-mistakes).
- If you _properly_ make amends, then chances are you do care a lot about what happened and the other people involved, as I think it's often difficult to really deeply amend a situation if you aren't being fully honest with yourself and others. If the amends are not properly made, and are instead hasty attempts to cover yourself, it usually shows. Making amends in the fullest, most meaningful way you could is not always possible, of course, nor is it necessary in most situations; but there is usually an element of realness to amends that will be present if it's heartfelt, no matter if the amends are somewhat clipped in presentation due to circumstances. (For instance, making up for something with a co-worker or a boss will probably look quite different to making up for something with your spouse. One will probably be more extensive than the other.)
- There are certain cases when it may not be as great to make amends:
- If you are doing it hastily just to get it done, such as under the belief that you should have everything sorted before you die;
- If you are making amends in a relationship that was not good for either party, where more harm would be done by continued engagement;
- If making amends would bring up old wounds that may be better left as they are for the sake of your and others' wellbeing;
- If making amends is actually part of some abusive cycle of codependence where you are being taken advantage of for your tendency to apologize/fix "mistakes"
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Debate_4_fun98110mo ago
I think the question implies that it is good for the individual to make amends for the wrong doing they think they have done.
Or that it is good for society that you make amends for the things you believe you have done wrong. Or both.
If we see wrong doing in any other way, then we bring into the statement, the question: What is wrong doing according to society? So what we are discussing is the individual perspective.
I think it is good for an individual to make amends for wrong doing that they believe they have done, usually. Many people hold in their heads a scale of fairness, if they do something they believe to be wrong, by which they can feel out of balance, if they do not balance it by making amends, they will feel badly. So it may well be good for them to make amends.
However this feeling is far from universal. I believe many people are quite comfortable in" getting even" with people who make them feel bad about themselves or whom they envy.
That someone has made them feel jealous, or negatively about themselves, or is making them do something they would rather not do (whether they know it is their responsibility to do it) is good enough for some people to feel justified in trying to hurt the "offending" person.
In the case of psychopaths i believe that they lack the feeling: a sense of wanting to make amends or i suppose we could call it "lack a conscience "and so without the feeling of imbalance, it is not in their best interests to make amends.
I also think some people have the capacity to cheat on their taxes, drop litter, lie, steal, without any conscience or sense of imbalance. So for those individuals it doesn't do them any harm, not to make amends. Unless they are caught in which case someone/society may exact revenge.
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