Obviously your child should be able to trust you with certain things, but forcing your child to tell you EVERY intimate detail about their personal/private life only leads to you raising a child that becomes very good at lying.

Is secret-keeping a sign of maturity or mistrust?
TW: Child abuse

• Many children keep secrets from their parents, from infancy to adulthood. Child psychologists and parenting experts disagree whether this is a natural part of child development or a symptom of parental mistrust that could make the child vulnerable to danger.

• Some believe that secret-keeping is a sign of maturity and developing personal boundaries. Research on the social and cognitive factors of child secret-keeping has found that secret-keeping increased with age and suggested positive development.

• A study of secrets among 3-5 year olds find that young children use secrets to form intimate relationships with their peers, and associate secrets with happiness, games, and imaginative play.

• Others fear that keeping secrets from parents can put children at risk of danger, such as child abuse. Many encourage open conversations between parent and child, to build a strong support system for the child. Keeping secrets can be tied to shame, which can be harmful to mental health and wellbeing.